Live Well: Real-Life Romance

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Airport reunions used to be an ever-present (and ever-important) aspect of my husband's and my relationship. We were long-distance in college, so getting to see each other every six to eight weeks in baggage claim at the airport was always a momentous occasion. I still remember feeling butterflies in my stomach, stopping in the restroom to fix my hair and makeup to make sure I looked perfect for the reunion I'd been dreaming about for two months.

On Sunday night, I flew back from Boston. It made me realize that I've completely lost the stamina it takes to be away from my husband - after three and a half days, I missed him terribly. When I got to the airport, though, there were no butterflies - just a very, VERY empty stomach after going ten hours without eating. There was also no makeup - why subject my skin to that kind of nonsense when all I was going to be doing was sitting on a plane?

So, Sunday night, I dragged myself down the airport steps, loaded down with carry-ons, dirty hair, no makeup, and feeling grumpy because I was so hungry. And then I realized that my husband had done the most romantic thing ever - he brought sushi with him INTO the airport so I could eat on the spot. As I wolfed down the special handroll he'd gotten for me, I didn't think I'd ever loved him more. Our relationship didn't look beautiful from the outside in that moment, but it felt like the most precious thing on earth.

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I'm going to apologize in advance for my posting frequency over these next couple weeks - I was in Boston last weekend, will be in Houston this next weekend, and my parents-in-law will be visiting the weekend after that! While I'm looking forward to every single trip/visit, my hectic schedule is probably going to do some damage to my ability to churn out regular blog posts. Hopefully you understand.

That irregular posting frequency resulted in me missing the opportunity to memorialize a very important day on this blog - my mom's birthday! Her birthday was yesterday, and I can't wait to get into town on Thursday so our entire family can celebrate the occasion this weekend. My mom is truly the most ardently loving and supportive mother you will ever meet - she loves the people in her life with reckless abandon, a trait I try to emulate every day. I love you so much, Mom!

Happy, happy Tuesday.

Live Well: Grumpy Valentine's

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If I could eliminate one holiday from our cultural consciousness, it would be Valentine's Day. It's the worst. Even when you're in a happy relationship, everything about it always seems second-rate. If your husband/boyfriend/BFF doesn't do something for you, you feel terrible about yourself. But almost anything they can do always seems a little cheesy. It's our once-yearly reminder that it's hard to make obligatory demonstrations of love look meaningful.

Luckily, my husband very kindly accommodates his Scrooge of a wife - tonight we will be staying home, watching TV, and eating takeout ramen. No fancy dinners, no red lipstick, no champagne. Just time spent relaxing on our couch, tucked away from the world, enjoying another normal night together. It's funny - although Valentine's Day is not my thing, my husband's and my distinct lack of traditional Valentine's celebration is one of many reminders that I've found the right person for me in life. I guess the holiday has accomplished its purpose after all.

Hopefully a few of you love Valentine's Day a bit more than I do! No matter what your Valentine's plans are tonight, I hope you have a lovely time.

Have a very happy weekend!

Live Well: Happy Birthday, Baby

Bob birthdayToday is my husband's 25th birthday. You may think that having your birthday fall on a Monday is the worst, but this past weekend we discovered that Monday birthdays allow for an entire weekend of celebration. On Friday we grabbed dinner from some food trucks, on Saturday morning we went and got dim sum, on Saturday night I surprised him with a dinner at Namu Gaji + dessert at Bi-Rite, and on Sunday I made blueberry muffins for breakfast (recipe tomorrow!) and chicken pot pie for dinner. In short, it was a great weekend.

I tend to think that Internet declarations of love are pretty lame, but why should that stop me? I just want to take five seconds to say that I love you, wonderful husband. My life would be so sad and empty without you - I will never stop giving thanks for the moment you walked back into my life five years ago. You are the sweetest, smartest, most patient, most perfect person I know and I love you more every day. Here's to a great 25th, and the promise of getting to celebrate our 50th, 75th, and 100th birthdays together. I love you infinity much.

Be Well: My Night Off

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Yesterday was our two-year wedding anniversary. Today is the five-year anniversary of when we started dating. Those days, those numbers, are very special to me. I'm proud that two 19 year-olds built this beautiful relationship. I'm proud that two 22 year-olds forged this fantastic marriage. And despite the fact that we spent a large portion of last night re-watching our wedding video, I'm very happy that our wedding wasn't the high point of our time together. Not even close.

I feel like there's a tendency as of late to love out loud. Really, really out loud given the availability of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram (and blogs, too). And while I'm always a fan of "I love you"s, sometimes I wonder if social media pronouncements of how much you love your spouse/fiance/boyfriend are kind of hollow. More for show, less for substance. More helpful in your pursuit of an image as a loving person, less helpful in, well, being a loving person.

So today, I don't really want to write an essay about about how much and why I love my husband. And I've maxed out on the photos of us together that I'm going to post with sappy captions. Today, tonight, I'm going to do less blogging, more looking at my husband. More smiling at my husband. More thinking about how eternally grateful I am to have him in my life. Less posting about how wonderful he is. More saying it. I'm taking a little bit of a night off. I hope you don't mind.